Anyone who has ever been to a club knows what partying is like. The experience is mostly about booze, loud music, large crowds and letting your hair down to have fun lots of fun.
Some people enjoy partying, some don’t.
It’s hard for me to actually make a choice because I use to work as a bouncer at a local club. It’s not about whether I enjoy the party or not, it was just work.
This post is about a deeper look into partying, something which most people and even the media don’t get to see.
Here’s what I’ve learned from the other side, on alcohol, people and the partying atmosphere from a few years of working in the nightlife industry.
People Are Not Always What They Seem
Every club has a VIP section and it’s mostly filled with rich guys and their entourage of young girls.
Typically, the VIP is dismissed as an arrogant person who only spends his time partying. The girls are thought to be victims being preyed upon by these older men.
That’s probably how it is in movies, but it’s not true all the time.
I’ve had the chance to talk to some of the VIPs of the club I work at, and not all of them are arrogant people who think that money talks. Most of them in fact, are self-made people of proven success who worked hard to earn their money. They know the value of a dollar, the meaning of hard work and most of all, respect for others.
As for the girls, they aren’t always victims. I’ve met plenty, with character traits that leave a lot to be desired. This group of girls would take advantage of any guy to get a free drink or worse, seduce a guy when they actually have a boyfriend back at home.
Gender stereotyping is rampant in nightclubs. It’s a very subjective area, but one ought to look deeper before you assume that a sweet-looking girl is devoid of all sin or that every guy in a club is a wolf on the hunt.
Here’s what I’ve learned: don’t ever judge, anyone from outer appearances alone. Cast aside your preconceived notions about people and you can be exposed to a wide array of virtues and values, or conversely, it might mislead you into thinking good about people which ultimately can bring you harm.
You Can’t Let People Get to You
When the club has a long queue of people wanting to enter on Friday night, it might look like the set up for a really great evening.
That is true.
But also, there is a dark side, because I have seenw rude customers who are downright nasty even to the point of fighting.
Award-winning writer Dave Barry puts it perfectly, “A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person”.
The club is rampant with nasty customers who simply want their way even though they are in the wrong. I’ve had people swear at me, push me and even threaten me. It can be pretty hard to stay calm and unaffected.
Fights occur in clubs every night. Two brutes decide that talking it out is not an option and hence decide to exchange blows.
I think that most people watch such drama on television and rarely ever encounter such people in real life and certainly not right up in their face.
It’s a sad fact but, yes, nasty people exist. Sooner or later, you’re bound to meet someone who will make you mad and wonder what you did to deserve such unfairness.
But I say, no matter what, don’t ever let it get to you. Everyone has their own lives to lead, so focus on your own. Focus all your energy on create positive experiences for yourself rather than channeling negativity and hate on others. Learn to let go when others make you upset. Otherwise, you will end up becoming one of them, which I don’t think is what you want.
When I had to be at the club due to work I did not have a choice, but you do. Surround yourself with positive people and don’t let the nasty ones get to you.
Let Your Life Be a Party
What I love most about partying is that it represents the epitome of letting loose, having fun and living life boldly. The alcohol, music and people certainly make for the whole experience, but perhaps there is more going on than just what’s on the surface.
It is said that partying is great because it allows people to let go of their inhibitions at the door, go in and make friends.
How often have you seen someone leave all their differences, biases and worries outside when they go into a club? I do quite often.
Now I don’t know about you, but I think that’s a really amazing aspect of the party scene which the world needs to learn from.
There’s a lot of divide and separation going on in the world right now and if the attitude people bring to the club can help with that, I say we need to party more often (in moderation, of course).
People hit the clubs to have fun and make friends. Isn’t that what we should do in life?
Be positive and have a great outlook on life. Have fun with what you have and look toward more good times. Meet cool people and surround yourself with them. Explore the world.
Let life be your party. Don’t live constantly with a hangover (alcohol induced or otherwise). Life is too short for a bad attitude. Enter each day just like you enter a club. Be full of excitement, expectation and energy.